Spiritual Healing for Relationships
“As we grow as unique persons, we learn to respect the uniqueness of others.” Robert Schuller
While doing a psychic reading recently a question that was asked, “What do you do with unresolved feelings from a relationship that is long gone and ended on a sour note?” And I thought, ‘Wow, what a great question, what a great blog topic!’ Let me begin by asking some questions of my own...if you had a stone in your shoe, would you continue to walk around with that stone creating a pain in your foot? When you reach a detour sign in the road, do you drive right through the detour barriers, or go another way? And last, do you ever find yourself having an entire conversation in your head?
The stone thing…if something is causing you pain, why keep it around? Does suffering through something broken mean you are being your most spiritual? If a relationship ended, then it lived its reason and season. It was not meant to be a lifetime affiliation. There had to have been something special and positive at one time for there to have been a relationship (any relationship qualifies here) in the first place. Keep those memories and discard the rest. That is, after you have done an autopsy of sorts. Review for yourself, how the relationship came to be, when it began to unravel and what caused the seams to fall apart. After all, you do not want to repeat the same behavior in future relationships. You don’t need to be a psychic to know that! When you’re satisfied that you understand, be sure to make a note to self as to what changes you will establish within and for you.
Detours…often take you down a road you might not have otherwise traveled and offer you something ‘cool’ in return. Sometimes they are just the long way around! The question here is why would you barrel through barricades meant to keep you out of harms way? When an association comes to an end, there is a reason. Often there’s a lesson to be learned for you to reach your highest, spiritual self. If you have performed your post-mortem, you will know why. What would be the point of hanging on? Would you drive up to the detour sign and sit and wait until the road opens again? Letting go is a gift you give both yourself and the one no longer in the picture. If the liaison is over and you are still suffering, you might want to consider how much energy and self power you are still giving away.
Talk is not cheap! Have a conversation with yourself about writing the last chapter of the book so you can close it. Once the book is closed, tie it with a lovely ribbon or string (metaphor) so there are no loose ends. How do you go about writing the final chapter? That is where the conversation comes in.
Create a time and space where you can sit down and have a meaningful dialogue. Perhaps even a place of meditation. Sit in your favorite chair with lots of pillows, or, go to a sacred place outside with nature, just as long as it is a calm place. Get comfy, perform several deep and cleansing breaths, center your being and your mind, bring the ‘other person’ into this space and then begin. The aspect of the other, as well as yourself that sits in this sacred space is the higher-self. Tell this person how special they were to you and express the qualities you liked best. Let them know you understand and accept that both of your paths have changed and you are ready to move forward and wish them peace and safe travels. Then sit quietly and breathe. You may actually find that their soul is listening to yours and will in turn accept your offer of closing and peace. This is a very spiritual time and gift you are giving. In any case, as you release your feelings, see them float away and then dwell in the feelings of release as you sit in a relaxed state. If you want to include forgiving in your conversation, by all means do so. If you want to create a sacred ritual of closure, that too is good (some ideas; release balloons; write your thoughts down and then tear the paper into shreds and toss away; find some small stones, and write your feelings on them with an indelible ink pen and then give the stones back to the earth.)
These are your moments and your path to design as you see fit. Finish with several deep, cleansing breaths, and then say a final adieu - you should be good to go!